Meet Pastor Rabie

Introduction

My name is Rabie Titus Shilakoe known as (Pastor Rabie) from Jane Furse (South Africa). I am a last born of six siblings, the only person with albinism in the family which is amazing as I am a gift from God.  I am passionate about Christianity, I love God and I live my life for Him.  

I went to Siloe School, close to Polokwane for primary school.  Thandi and I met there as class mates.

Fatherhood

I have a 9 year old daughter.  She does not have albinism.  I raised her from the toddler stage which began with clinic visits as her mom and I are separated.  

At about 5 years she was very curious about how daddy looked like but she enjoyed it as she would brag to her friends that her dad is white and he is also a Pastor.  Lately she calls me Moruti (Pastor).  

We have a beautiful father and daughter relationship.  Whenever I call her before we hang up she came up with the rule that her younger sister should hear my voice so that she can also feel and experience the love she receives from daddy.

Life's Challenges

Family:  Growing up being the only person with albinism gave me too much attention and a lot of supervision from my family.  My daily questions or instructions were: "Did you put on your sunscreen?  Where is Rabie?  Don't forget your hat".  My every movevwas watched at close range.  Yes I was young but this irritated me a lot.

Family gatherings:  Extended family members did not know how to associate with me,  I struggled to fit in.  It always felt like I have to explain myself about my condition all the time.  This has put a lot of strain on my emotions because people are supposed to be understanding family members.   

Polygamy family set up:  My father had two wives, my mom was the younger wife.  I did not understand polygamy dynamics.  At some point I stayed with my dad and the first wife's family.  I felt excluded in that family.  They gave me a room outside while all the children had their bedrooms inside the main house. They would always pass sarcastic remarks which made it clear that I am not welcome in their family.  I only felt safe when my father was around.  

Integrating into the community:  I grew up in boarding school and the community was not familiar with me as they would only see me during school holidays.  People would always call me names but I would always laugh it off or disagree with what they called me as my mom gave me guidance on how to handle these encounters.  I found ways to diffuse the insults. I always participated in community activities like soccer, parties and other events.  Eventually they warmed up to me.  

My Victory Moments

We all know that people with albinism are looked down on.  This made me take good care of my skin and physical appearance. With time I have also learned to build my confidence.  I always speak life and believe in everything I want to achieve. Adding to that I give my best and have no room for self doubt.  

The wisdom and strategic approach I have learned, have opened great doors for me as follows:

Ministry:  Besides being a Pastor at my home, I also receive invitations to preach at different churches.  Even in our neighboring African countries.  I have preached in church gatherings with more than 500 people.

Mining Industry:  My company is contracted to service few mines.

Property Investments:  I have observed my property portfolio growth.  

Closing Thoughts 

I would like to encourage everyone with albinism to challenge themselves to do great things in their lives as we are changing the narrative and moving away from the old mindset and myths.  After all God has created us to fulfil a purpose on earth.

Please take care of your skin as albinism is beautiful.

Gratitude Note 

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Meet Matsatsi

Introduction

My name is Matsatsi Semomo from Pretoria (South Africa).  I am a bubbly lady, full of energy and a go getter.  People describe me as "if never giving up was a person, that would be me".  

Growing up as the only child with albinism, I decided to do a research out of curiosity to see where these gene comes from. I was amazed to find out that I was the first and only one in the family.  I was a blessing to my family.  I have never let albinism to define me.  

I did not go to a special school as my mom did not want me to feel different from the community members.  

Boy Mom

I am blessed with three boys, my  first is a set of twins, then I had their brother.  I consider them to be triplets because they are 18 months apart. They do not have albinism however I still dream of a baby with albinism.  

School pick ups and drop offs become very interesting as other learners would expect a brown skinned mom to my boys. I am grateful that they are not mistreated for our skin tone differences.  

My boys do not fully understand the albinism condition however they embrace my uniqueness. This is their definition of albinism: when mommy was sleeping, we painted her white, gave her red hair and green eyes so that she is unique for us.  Talk about a creative mind from a child!  I find this cute all the time. They protect me and give me a lot of care.

Challenging Moments

Mockery at school:  Growing up with albinism was very challenging especially in primary school because some of my class mates would mock me since I had to sit in the front row for me to be able to see the chalkboard. They did not understand why I wore spectacles.  As a child wearing spectacles was challenging because of all childhood activities, sometimes I would forget or drop them and they would break. That meant my parents had to pay more for a new set.

The mockery and bullying made me cry a lot, it affected my confidence and self esteem until my mom sat me down and made me understand that she will not be there all the time to fight my battles. That was the day I decided to stand firm and leave the stigma attached to albinism alone.  I found myself.   

Sunburn: I had a friend who enjoyed peeling my skin after sunburn.  She would always ask me if it's not painful as she peeled the dead skin off.

Work place: People at work do not understand my condition (the low vision), I normally get questions like why am I too close to my monitor? 

On the other side I think my current employer tries to accommodate and understands the needs of employees with disabilities. They provide assistive devices to make work easier and when you work on site they provide sunscreen.  I had the biggest monitor in the office and my colleagues would always tease me for having a TV at work.  

Driving:  When I drive in the direction facing the sun, the sun blinds my eyes and it always feels like a  flashlight has just been put on which is destructive in many instances.

Moments Of Victory 

At school I used to participate in academic activities and I always won in those activities.  This gave me positive attention from the entire school. Ooh I love attention!

I studied Bachelor's of Business Administration, despite all the challenges I faced at university, I managed to complete my degree on time with 13 distinctions. This helped me secure two permanent employment positions and it also boosted and advanced my career path.

Last Thoughts

It is a blessing to live in technology times as information is everywhere if searched properly.  

Another great thing is that our government assists our albinism community with disability grants (CLICK HERE) and sunscreen.

Gratitude Note 

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Friendships

Struggling to make friends in the community

My grandmother asked my mom to take me to boarding school so that I am safe and protected from the community.  This meant that I would spend about three months away from home.  The community knows me but I hardly know anyone at home, this hurts because I am a social person.  It became challenging to make friends at home and integrate into the community.  My friends at home were my cousins.  I got to make other friends at university and at the workplace.

Words from Tracy

"I met Thandi in January 1999 when she came to Prinshof School.  She walked boldly or rather should I say she skipped up to me, gave me a hug and told me we will be friends forever.  And that we have been since that day.  We have stood by each other through everything, good and bad.  We are truly soul sisters.  I know I can call her in the middle of the night and she will stop everything for me and the other way around.  Our bond is so strong that the Holy Spirit won't leave me alone until I reach out to her.  Thandi has a heart of gold and the ability to love without boundaries.  

My fondest or should I say our fondest childhood memory is sitting in my room in Jakaranda Hostel sharing a packet of BM biscuits that my mom had packed for us for that week.  

The future still has a lot for us especially watching Reece (our son) grow up and us as his guidance, he is bound to never have a dull moment in his life".

Words from Lethabo 

"Meeting Thandi at work was a truly enriching blessing. Getting to know this remarkable person living with albinism not only broadened my perspective but also played a part in my personal healing journey. Thandi is a breath of warmth and energy – loud, helpful, and radiating confidence. Her uniqueness was palpable and inspiring, showcasing a strength unhindered by anything. Despite our contrasting personalities, mine quiet and shy, hers loud and bubbly, we found a great balance. 

In friendship, Thandi is fully present and nurturing. She finds joy in lending a helping hand, even when it's not always received as she'd hope. Observing this helped me reciprocate the same love, energy, and kindness she gives her friends. Thandi knows how to hold her friends' hands through trouble and through joy.  A lot can be said about this beautiful gentle giant". 

Message to Tracey and Lethabo

When I met the both of you, it was love at first sight.  I am grateful everyday that God allowed us to meet.  Thank you so much for sisterhood and for holding me through all these years.  I love you girls everyday.

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A Second Chance To Life - Part 3

 

After Effects 

I couldn't fall asleep because as I closed my eyes every night the scene kept on replaying itself. I would literally hear the smashing of glasses to a point that if a glass broke in my hands I would start crying. Lack of sleep resulted into fatigue as I struggled to sleep for over a month.  I then began my healing journey with a therapist.

Harassment From The Couple 

Few days later I received the first call from the wife asking me to surrender to my insurance company so that they can assist them with fixing their car as their insurance cover fell off because they missed a few payments. 

My response was I don't know how you two as a couple advised each other that it's ok not to have an insurance cover for your car, I am lying here with nightmares every night because of your actions.

I received a second call from the husband threatening me that they know where I live, if I don't assist they will wait for me at my gate. I told him to do whatever he wants with his wife and their threats are very shallow. Honestly I was very scared as I hung up.

Peace Of Mind

I phoned the consultant who was handling my claim, she calmed me down and assured me that the Legal Department will deal with the issue and the couple will not call me anymore. Indeed that was the  last call I received from that couple. Peace of mind and rest started sinking in. 

My claim got settled and I got blessed with new wheels.

Please read A Second Chance To Life Part 1 CLICK HERE and Part 2 CLICK HERE on these links.

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A Second Chance To Life - Part 2

 

I Am Right Behind You Sis

I heard a knock on my window out of a sudden! I am locked in and cannot do anything.  This happened to be my younger sister who followed me without my knowledge. Aah the grace of God is sufficient for all of us. 

It still beats me how breakdown trucks instantly arrive at the accident scene, sometimes it feels like they have been waiting for it to happen.

Blue Lights And Red Lights

The police and the ambulance arrived few minutes apart. Swimming in a lot of confusion, I just said to my younger sister please take care of my limited edition yellow  Adidas running shoes because the  car boot was filled with shoes.

They loaded me into the ambulance and asked me to try and breathe. At some point they asked me to  narrate the story and tears were just running down my face.  We got to the hospital for further screening and body checks. I got released the following morning as I had minor injuries.

Endless Phone Calls

A lot of people called to ask if I had anything to drink (alcohol) prior my trip and why did I drive in the evening because of my eye condition click here? This was very painful to take in because why would I consume  alcohol knowing that I am going to drive and I am very careful person.  Adding to that I thought there is no set time for an accident to happen.  I stopped talking to those people for my mental health.  

From that evening I couldn't fall asleep because the accident scene kept on playing over and over in my mind.  I then made a decision to seek professional help.

Please stay tuned for Part 3. 

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A Second Chance To Life - Part 1

17 April 2014

It's my birthday right! And yes I am a celebratory person, I bought the biggest cake and invited everyone on Floor 26 for a slice. The atmosphere was filled with joy and warmth as I wished for it. After cake sharing we all left the office as my birthday fell on to a long weekend and we usually got the afternoon off to allow employees to travel home and to spend quality time with their families.

Plans For The Weekend Baby!

In the morning I had a chat with another friend to check if we could travel together and that plan did not materialize.

I drove home to drop off stuff as this was enroute to my destination and also gave my younger sister money to buy my nephew a cake since we are twins.  I left home and continued with my journey, looking forward to an exciting weekend ahead since this trip was planned months ago. 

Sudden Turn Of Events

As I drove somewhere in the bushes, singing along to Robin Thike because I am a big fan of his music I got involved in a car accident. All happened too fast, at that point all I saw was a flash of a very bright light in my eyes.  This was accompanied by a hot clap from the airbag. What echoed in my mind were conversations we always hear from our male friends on how to swerve the car dunning an accident, unfortunately this could not happen.

I remember praying to the Lord, I said "Father if it's your time may your will be done. If I am getting another chance to life, may I please walk out of this with less injuries that will not take forever to heal".  I reached out for my cellphone to call my older sister to inform her about the accident.  She just started praying while I cried so hard from my end.  I heard somebody knocking on my window and trying to open the door.  This was my younger sister who followed me and I was not aware.

Please stay tuned for Part 2.

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Feedback Time

 

                               

How I Met Alfred

Alfred joined our department in 2014.  He has a very bubbly personality which made it easier for him and I to connect.  I would ask for his assistance when I needed an extra colleague to assist with one of my work deliverables.  The more we spoke,  the more I got to realize that we both love education and he would always encourage me as a black woman to study further.

Feedback On Learnings 

Since I started blogging in March 2024, Alfred and I would interact on my published blogposts and he would ask for further information in pursuit to understand albinism.  On one of our interactions, I asked him how he found the information and below are the key things he provided feedback on:

1. "Hey Thandi, the blogs have taught me a lot about challenges people with  albinism go through. 
2. I never knew the reason why you would use a large font as a lot of us have been sending you emails with small fonts without understanding your eyesight challenges. I am happy I worked very close to you and through reading I learned about your reason for moving from Alberton to Pretoria for you to find a coping mechanism for your eyes and that there should be balance in your life as well as work activities.  Your resilience at the workplace has shown me that you are mentally strong as no challenge kept you down. 
3. I have learned about your academic challenges but you still pulled through.
4. I watched the movie "Can you see us" with my boys and I could discuss albinism with them. Rorisang even asked why are people so rude and discriminating against a child of God. 
5. I give thanks to your mentor for the support and guidance she gave you through this journey as I have found the blogs to be very informative and didn't seek pity or show you were a victim but a Survivor".
   

Note To Alfred

Dear Alfred, thank you so much for the loud laughter you always blessed us with on Floor 26. Thank you for giving me hugs and literally picking me up.  Thank you for keeping in touch although you have left our organization.   I wish you prosperity in your new career chapter.

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